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born 1927

It only took 3 minutes + 57 seconds for 28-year-old Dr. Joyce Brothers to become a household name. That’s how long it took the young psychologist to draw upon her surprising knowledge of boxing to win the $64,000 Question. From quiz shows to sports + talk shows to her own NBC program, Joyce quickly became a household name not just for her trivia genius but also her pioneering advice ~ particularly to women. Often, she dealt on topics never before discussed publicly, like sex and menopause. Drawing upon her experiences as a wife and mother as much as on her degrees, Joyce offered keen insight on women’s issues while seeming nonthreatening to the status quo. And, did so with a great sense of humor, racking up 100s of late-night appearances not to mention tv + film cameos.

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all quotes by Joyce Brothers (41)

"Marriage is not just spiritual communion and passionate embraces; marriage is also three meals a day, sharing the workload and remembering to carry out the trash."

When Your Husband's Affection Cools | may 1972

"Divorce? Never! Murder? All the time!"

Who wears the pants, Joyce or Milton Brothers? That’s the $64,000 question | april 1977

"Even in this age of television, we live in a world of the written word."

Meet the MS READ-a-thon | may 1977

"Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery."

How to get Whatever You Want out of Life | february 1978

"Today, society's rules may have changed, but the behavior of many men often has not."

Why Men Abuse Women | november 1984

"Remember, confession, confiding, and sharing are good for the body as well as the soul."

Success May Not Bring Happiness | october 1987

"Psychologically, having it all is not even a valid concept."

1988

"I have found that, as love matures, it grows better, warmer, deeper—not quite as passionate perhaps, but that's good, because otherwise we'd wear ourselves out."

How Women Love | april 1989

"If you would love successfully, you must also love patiently."

How Women Love | april 1989

"To keep love alive, one doesn’t need to work at it but to play."

How Women Love | april 1989

"Cholesterol, I told myself, is what God put in food to make it taste good."

Widowed | 1990

"Becoming a widow is a change of the first magnitude, and it shakes your whole life to its very foundations."

Widowed | 1990

"What it boiled down to was that I wanted a man in my life, but not in my house."

Widowed | 1990

"While a daughter always remains Daddy’s little girl, she grows up to be her mother’s peer."

Widowed | 1990

"Time does not heal grief."

Widowed | 1990

"No matter what your age, you can develop sex appeal."

What Really Makes Men and Women Attractive | august 1990

"What makes a woman attractive at 40 differs from what makes a girl stunning in her teens."

What Really Makes Men and Women Attractive | august 1990

"No woman should feel unworthy and unhappy because she doesn’t look like Michelle Pfeiffer."

What Really Makes Men and Women Attractive | august 1990

"The person who cannot feel joy by looking at a sunset or the shimmering trees blowing in the wind, has a problem."

Dr. Joyce Brothers | april 1991

"Humans are not happy living in a totally stress-free environment."

Dr. Joyce Brothers | april 1991

"It defies common sense to think that psychologists can't deal with their own relationships."

Psychologists at home: how they live | july 1993

"I had never really experienced grief before, and although the pain was enormous, I became much more sensitive to others."

Psychologists at home: how they live | july 1993

"I had enough to promise myself I’d never do things I didn’t want to do again."

Psychologists at home: how they live | july 1993

"When things don't go well I find another route."

Psychologists at home: how they live | july 1993

"I use work as my way of dealing with blues."

Psychologists at home: how they live | july 1993

"I take intelligent risks. At my stage of life, what can they do to me? Really?"

Psychologists at home: how they live | july 1993

"Happiness hides in life's small details."

You Can Lead a More Joyful Life | january 2000

"Control isn’t really about doing it all. It’s about being focused on what you want and pursuing your major goals—not every goal."

Take Control of your Life | january 2000

"You need to give yourself permission to be human."

Take Control of your Life | january 2000

"We didn’t design the seas, so we can’t control the currents."

Take Control of your Life | january 2000

"Ideally, this is a joint decision by both partners, but until men can actually give birth to a baby after carrying it for nine months, I think the woman must have the deciding vote."

Intimate Advice | june 2000

"Cherish everything in your day that contributes to happiness: spending a special moment with a child, drinking a cup of your favorite coffee, joking with a co-worker, saving a rosebush from destruction. Happiness hides in life's small details. If you're not looking, it becomes invisible."

You Can Lead a More Joyful Life | october 2000

"Most of us don't make happiness a priority."

How to lead a joyful life | january 2001

"Nothing brings families together faster than forgiveness."

Reconnect With Your Family | november 2001

"When you forgive, you gain strength and come out a winner. You break free of control by the other person's actions."

Reconnect With Your Family | november 2001

"Small problems provide a chance to grow; large ones are a lesson in courage."

10 Keys to a Strong Family | december 2002

"Strong families use the word 'we' a lot, but 'I' is never forgotten."

10 Keys to a Strong Family | december 2002

"Don’t read minds; listen with your heart."

10 Keys to a Strong Family | december 2002

"For men to be virgins, we think it's negative. We think that there's something wrong with them. At the same time, we think when a woman gives up her virginity too early she's a bit of a tramp."

Celibate Celebrities: Why Does Virginity Fascinate Us? | august 2005

"I want to do everything that I can, 'cause it's fun."

Bergen County Record | december 2006

"You can't please everyone, but you can learn who you shouldn't waste any more time worrying about!"

Instill kindness by experience, and avoid judgement | december 2008
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